Video: The Making of a Champion: The Parent’s Vital Role. By Johnson Choi on Feb 23 2026 冠軍的塑造：家長的關鍵角色. 作者: 蔡永強. 夏威夷 2026年2月23日
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The recent success of young talents like Eileen Gu on the world stage offers a powerful lens through which to examine a fundamental question: What shapes a successful child? While natural talent and individual drive are essential, the role of parents from birth is the foundational element. They are the primary architects of a child’s potential.
Too often, I hear complaints from clients, friends, and family about their own children—young adults who seem to lack motivation in their jobs and their lives. My response is always a difficult but necessary truth: as parents, we must look in the mirror. We bear a significant responsibility for this outcome.
The reason is simple. When we examine the lives of young people who struggle, we often find they were raised in a “hothouse” environment. They were pampered and protected from challenges, their paths smoothed of any obstacles. In essence, instead of being raised to become capable, resilient adults, they were raised like cherished pets—loved, but not prepared for the realities of the world.
Beyond the Home: The Power of Environment
Where we raise our children is just as important as how. In a world where parents are often busy working, a child’s peer group can have a more significant influence on their development than we might realize.
This is why I strongly advise parents to take an active interest in their children’s friendships. Go and visit the homes of their best friends. Get to know the parents. The goal isn’t to find the most expensive neighborhood. It’s far more important to observe what is happening inside the house. Does the friend’s home environment seem stable and supportive? Does the friend’s own room look like a space where a responsible young person could live, study, and thrive? These observations offer invaluable insights into the influences shaping your child.
Ultimately, the window for this kind of active, intentional shaping is finite. If we fail to instill resilience, responsibility, and a strong work ethic during childhood, we may reach a point of no return by the time they reach maturity.
Warning Signs: What to Look For
For parents still in the process of shaping their children, or for those whose successful children are now choosing a life partner, here are some key indicators that a young person may not have been raised with the “champion” mindset:
- Lack of Educational Initiative: They haven’t completed a bachelor’s degree by age 23, not due to circumstance, but from a lack of direction or follow-through.
- Poor Planning: They failed to investigate whether their chosen degree leads to a viable job market, indicating a lack of foresight.
- Post-Graduate Stagnation: They return to living with their parents after college without a clear, active plan for their next steps in life and career.
- Poor Work Ethic: They constantly complain about working hard, seeing effort as a burden rather than a path to achievement.
- Prolonged Dependency: They have passed the age of 30 and are still living with their parents, showing a pattern of lifelong dependency rather than adult independence.
These signs are not about passing judgment, but about recognizing the long-term outcomes of different parenting philosophies. The goal is to raise not just a successful child, but a self-sufficient, resilient adult.
冠軍的塑造：家長的關鍵角色. 作者: 蔡永強. 夏威夷 2026年2月23日
像谷愛凌這樣的年輕天才在世界舞台上嶄露頭角，為我們提供了一個有力的視角，去探討一個根本問題：是什麼塑造了一個成功的孩子？雖然天賦和個人動力至關重要，但父母從孩子出生起所扮演的角色，才是奠基性的要素。他們是孩子潛能的主要建築師。
我經常聽到客戶、朋友和家人抱怨他們自己的孩子——那些似乎對工作和生活缺乏動力的年輕人。我的回應總是一個難以啟齒卻必要的真相：為人父母者，我們必須反思自己。我們對這樣的結果負有重大責任。
原因很簡單。當我們審視那些掙扎求生的年輕人的生活時，常常會發現他們是在「溫室」環境中長大的。他們被溺愛、被保護，免於面對挑戰，道路上的一切障礙都被提前清除。本質上，他們沒有被培養成有能力、有韌性的成年人，而是像被珍愛的寵物一樣被養大——被愛著，卻沒有為面對現實世界做好準備。
超越家庭：環境的力量
我們在哪裡養育孩子，與我們如何養育他們同樣重要。在一個父母常常忙於工作的世界裡，孩子的同儕群體對他們的影響力，可能比我們意識到的還要大。
這就是為什麼我強烈建議父母要積極關注孩子的友誼。去拜訪他們最好朋友的家，認識那些父母。目標不是找到最昂貴的社區。觀察房子內部正在發生的事情遠比這重要得多。朋友的家庭環境看起來穩定且支持性強嗎？朋友自己的房間，看起來像是一個有責任心的年輕人可以生活、學習和茁壯成長的空間嗎？這些觀察提供了寶貴的見解，讓你能了解正在塑造你孩子的那些影響力。
最終，這種積極、有意識塑造孩子的機會之窗是有限的。如果我們未能在童年時期灌輸韌性、責任感和強烈的職業道德，等到他們成年時，我們可能就會到達一個無法回頭的臨界點。
警訊：需要留意的跡象
對於仍在塑造孩子階段的父母，或者那些事業有成的孩子正在選擇人生伴侶、需要你提供建議時，以下是一些關鍵指標，可以幫助判斷一個年輕人是否可能沒有被培養出「冠軍」心態：
- 缺乏進取心： 他們在23歲前尚未完成學士學位，這並非由於環境因素，而是因為缺乏方向或堅持到底的毅力。
- 規劃不當： 他們沒有事先調查所選的學位在未來職場是否有出路，顯示缺乏前瞻性。
- 畢業後停滯不前： 大學畢業後，他們在沒有明確、積極的人生與職業下一步規劃的情況下，就搬回家與父母同住。
- 職業道德薄弱： 他們不斷抱怨工作辛苦，將付出視為負擔，而非通往成就的道路。
- 長期依賴： 他們已年過30，仍與父母同住，顯示出一種終身依賴的模式，而非成年後的獨立。
這些跡象的目的不在於評判他人，而是為了認識到不同教養哲學所帶來的長期結果。我們的目標不僅是養育一個成功的孩子，更是培養一個能夠自立自強、有韌性的成年人。
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